“Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.” -Luke 2:52
I recently ended eight years of serving in the youth programs of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. In the church we are asked to serve in different callings at different times, and I really enjoyed and grew from my experiences with great young men, ages 11 – 18. I remember the impact that good youth leaders had on me when I was that age. I’m grateful for the ways that the activities and standards helped me grow as a person.
Beginning in Janary 2020 a significant shift occurred: We ended our connection with the Boy Scouts of America for young men, and ended previous programs for Young women and youth. The new program for children and youth is focused on helping them prepare for the future and grow in faith and in their personal lives. It relies much less on a checklist of requirements and much more on the the youth themselves working to discern what goals they should set for themselves, using a 4-part framework based on the scripture Luke 2:52:
“Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.”
Not much is written about what Jesus Christ was like and what He did during his years as a child and young man. But this scriptures sums it up well. He was growing; intellectually, physically, spiritually and socially. So we are asked to used that pattern and ask the question: what ways do I feel I need to grow? And then set one or two goals to focus on in each of these categories.
This is connected to the recent focus in our church to :
1. Hear Him — for every person to increase their personal capacity to perceive and receive direction from God. We call that personal revelation.
2. Be Home-centered — with an increased focus on learning and growing in our own homes and families, rather than at church.
As children of God, all people feel an urge to grow. Personal growth and change has been a topic I’ve been interested in for a long time. Anyone who’s been serious about setting goals and resolutions have learned that real personal change and growth is challenging.
Try this framework of 4-part focus for personal growth. You do some soul-searching, ask for help and direction from God, and set a goal in each of these categories.
In Favor with God: Spiritual Growth. A focus on daily talking with God (prayer) and reading His words in the scriptures and the words of His apostles. The New Testament and the Book of Mormon are go-to sources for hearing the words of Jesus Christ and feeling how they apply to me. To grow in favor with God, we seek to understand His will, keep His commandments, and serve others for Him.
In Favor with man: Social growth. Building healthy relationships with your family, co-workers, friends and others. I have felt the need to heal and improve relationships with family members and to be a better friend.
In Stature: Physical Growth. Taking care of your body with enough sleep, exercise and healthy food. I have felt the impact on my mental health. Taking care of your stuff, and organizing your life.
In Wisdom: Intellectual growth. Learning new things, skills, music, craft/construction skills, a new language, learning to manage your finances, to grow professionally, to understand our world and the human-experience deeper, and to plan to use what you learn to help other.
I am actively trying to use this process. Here are some thoughts: Personal growth and change are hard, so be patient, seek to start small, and be consistent.
Problems worthy of attack with show their worth by fighting back. – Dallen Oaks.
Write down simple goals and check in on the progress at least weekly. Find ways to make it just a regular expected part of your day, and make the process enjoyable.
I have enjoyed and benefitted from the ideas in books like The 7 Habits Highly Effective People, and Atomic Habits. I get the weekly email newsletter from James Clear (link).
On reading wisdom literature, Ralph Waldo Emerson said: “I cannot remember the books I’ve read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me.”
In our efforts to reach goals and make personal changes, it helps to remember that the goal is to become the best version of ourselves. We are here on earth to wrestle with challenges, to grow and choose our destiny as children of God.
I know that our Heavenly Father is eager to support our efforts to grow and improve. He has power to strength our habits and heal our relationships. Following Jesus Christ in a wholistic pattern is the way to experience the joy of personal growth in life, and increase our ability to serve others. I pray He will bless you and all of us in our efforts to improve and grow.
What has helped you in the process of personal improvement and growth?
